Social Rule ~ #SMMCC

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By Benjamin Nelson

Happy Monday – make that – Happy Social Media Monday @CommentsOnChristianity – That’s right! It’s a thing, and we’re glad you’re here.

I will confess. I am not a huge social media maven. I have dipped my feet in most of them, and play in Twitter more than the others. I have a personal Facebook account and a Facebook page which I use to link to my blog which is what you might call my home base. Many of my friends want me to pay more attention to my LinkedIn page, and then there is my Pinterest page. (I think I pinned something once.) I keep thinking I will someday make a YouTube video, or post a Vine. All my blog posts do show up on my Tumblr account too. I almost forgot Google+. How could I forget G+?

At the bottom of my blog, there are share buttons for other networks in which I have not as yet played at all. I will get there some day, when I have some time. By then their relevancy ship may have sailed. Ah well.

Though I am no more than adept in any one of these venues, I do know a rule that will help anyone navigate the social media jungle.

This rule has served me well in my Twitterage. It has kept me from danger in my Facebook account. It is a must for life in the blogosphere as well.

It’s an easy rule to remember, but not always so easy to follow.

It comes from that genius of Social interaction: Jesus

Here is a simple, rule-of-thumb guide for behavior. Ask yourself what you want people to do for you, then grab the initiative and do it for them. Add up God’s Law and Prophets and this is what you get.Matthew 7:12

Almost without exception, when I have found myself in relational trouble…

in the Social Media world
in my life
at school
at work
at home
at church
anywhere there are other people

…it’s because I’ve broken this rule. [Click to Tweet]

I’ve seen this life rule turn attackers into listeners on twitter.
I’ve seen it turn argument into discussion on Facebook.
I’ve seen it turn enemies into friends in my workplace.

What does that look like?

It’s easy actually.

Step 1: Ask yourself: What am I hoping for when I put something ‘out there?’

Real discussion
Constructive criticism

(It’s starting to sound like a box of cyber Lucky Charms.)

Whatever it is that helps you grow in the real world – turn it around and do it to (or for) someone else.

I won’t promise a payback in kind, but that’s possible.

This rule, known for centuries as ‘The Golden Rule” belongs in every aspect of society.

The Golden Rule belongs in your marriage. Don’t correct every word and don’t belittle your spouse in front of your kids, friends or neighbors

The Golden Rule belongs in government. How we treat our poor, our rich, our ally nations, and even how we treat those who hate our nation.

The Golden Rule belongs in politics. Imagine an election where the candidates treated each other the way they wanted to be treated.

The Golden Rule belongs in the market place. Fair fees for a good product or competent service.

The Golden Rule belongs in your circle of friends. It would eliminate the sinful plague of gossip and backbiting.

The Golden Rule belongs on talk radio. What if the talkingheads treated those they disagreed with, the way they want to be treated?

The Golden Rule belongs in Social Media.

The Golden Rule would change the world!

How would this rule of gold change the way you do social, or the way you do life?

BN Bio 50Benjamin Nelson is a Jesus Lover, husband, dad, grandfather, worshipper, writer, preacher and almost author. He loves to see people activated in what God has created them to be. You can connect with Ben at Contact: Twitter | Facebook | Blog

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9 replies

  1. Reblogged this on Another Red Letter Day and commented:

    Check out my post on CC for Social Media Monday!

  2. I try to adhere to the golden rule at all times, but I am far from perfect. Thanks for the reminder.

  3. What helps me is think of social media as opportunities to plant seeds, to speak the truth in love, to develop a niche in communicating truth. I don’t use it very well to build relationships — but I have to accept that. Good thoughts.

    • Good point Dave. There are many good opportunities, and I can honestly say I do have a few I count as friends who i have met through these Social Media venues. Planting seeds – or perhaps scattering seeds – is very valuable too.

      Thanks much for weighing in.

  4. This is very true. We so often get caught up in ourselves on social media (since it can be a highly narcissistic realm) and forget to add benefit to others. Helpful article Ben.

  5. Thank you, Mr. Ben! I get a little overwhelmed by it all and do better just trying to support others and not putting too much out there myself! God bless you as you keep living out His word!

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